openly bicoastal


Just a quick update on what we’ve been doing – especially since I find I’ve stopped writing about our travel habits and my personal demons because I grew weary of having to defend them about a year ago, and didn’t get back in the habit. Here’s the deal: we take a lot of airplanes. It’s how our life works. I flew back to NYC to cover an event for a magazine, and two weeks later, the whole family came back together.

Planes use a shitload of gas, but until someone invents hydrogen fuel-cell jets (with easily-extractable hydrogen – looks like it’s happening) then we’ll have to figure out other ways of lessening our impact. Besides, I’m not really sure how we can personally keep more planes from flying, especially when British Airways is flying planes WITH NO PASSENGERS back and forth across the Atlantic. But I digress.

We’re back in New York, in essence, to wait out the strike. We usually come home for the holidays anyway, but this trip will be longer, because, quite frankly, LA is a bummer. The strike began the first day of the time change (as well as a weather change), so Los Angeles became cold, dark and without immediate prospect overnight. We decided that if we wanted to be cold and dark, we were going to do it with our families and some of our oldest friends.

I’m writing this on the floor of Sean, Jordana and my mom’s apartment, because our other place has been rented out, and there’s nowhere else to sleep. Oddly, it’s insanely comfortable, and this kind of peripatetic lifestyle (while anathema to my wife) totally fits my A.D.D. quest for constant adventure. We’ll be shuttling back and forth from the farm upstate (also rented out), and in the meantime, Tessa can hang with her friends, I can play basketball on Mulberry Street, and Lucy can teach Barnaby how to walk.

I’m personally torn between the New York and LA decision, because I’m so utterly happy here in NYC, but there isn’t the kind of writing work that is consistent enough to call a true career. If the strike ever ends, working in television and movies – which, we’ve been told, we’re good at – is about the only place left to earn a decent wage and hope for a real audience. And those things, as well as Lucy’s amazing child care, are all in Los Angeles.

I get it; it sounds like a luxury problem, and probably is. But pretty soon La Luce will be in some sort of school that won’t take kindly to our travels, and… I don’t know. I can tell you this, however: we met with an estate attorney who gave us the Ten Most Important Pieces of Advice Every Married Couple With Either a Child or Real Estate Should Know. I will post what they are (if you’re interested) but one thing stuck with me.

“Bring in your horizon,” he said. Don’t make decisions you plan to set in stone for twenty years. Make decisions for the next three years or so, then reassess. Shorten the lifespan of your theories and see how they stack up. And I have to say, ever since I started making the future closer, it feels like it’s not coming on so fast.

0 thoughts on “openly bicoastal

  1. DB

    Please do share the ten rules. I’m at the mercy of the legal academic job market and am in Hawaii now (waiting for my bags) then going to DC and NY.

  2. Greg T.

    On behalf of those of us that are either too lazy, too busy, or too poor (woo-hoo, I hit the trifecta!) to meet with an estate planner, please share the top 10.
    I agree with the 1st item posted. It’s the rationalization I use for charging vacations to the CC rather than saving to take them in a year or so. Our recent run-in with cancer only served to reinforce that view.
    Speaking of the cancer run-in, we are now almost 3 months removed from the last of the chemo and radiation treatments and I am happy to report that the latest CT scan is clean and the latest tests all came back negative. For the first time in 6 months the cloud of fear is somewhat lifted. I’m sure it will return every 3-6 months when we return for testing, but for now we are able to breathe a little bit more freely.

  3. CL

    Another vote for the 10 rules. Someday I may need ’em.
    Whenever an East Coast-dwelling type gets into the movie and TV biznes, they always try to say they’re going to still stay East as much as they can, but it’s very hard. We in Joisey kinda miss Kevin Smith…

  4. Claudia

    I totally agree with not setting the future in stone. My father gave me the same piece of advice several years back, as I was fretting about stuff way, way ahead. It has proved invaluably brilliant and calming. I’ll go even farther (or nearer, as the case may be) and say that I’m thinking in terms of three months, not three years.

  5. Ian

    greg t, that’s great news.
    Mr. The. Budster, I meant “nowhere to sleep within walking distance of the subway.” That said, we are looking forward to our Bud’nBaps fixes.

  6. tregen

    Love to see the rules also.
    On another note… I hope to many picket line folks don’t up and decide to go visit family or the strike is lost.

  7. Rebecca

    Please post the rules. Good luck with the picketing in NY and have a wonderful holiday season with your family and friends.
    Hooray for Greg T! Great news!

  8. amy

    as fate would have it, it’s been like 8,000 degrees here the past few days. i’ll trade you some chillier weather…
    good luck with the picketing east-coast style. we’ll keep it up out here…


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