in french: felchez


Okay, today’s question stems from the last couple of days’ discussion: what exactly, in your life, do you find actually offensive? It can be words, ideas, or anything that creeps up on a semi-regular basis.

I’m taking out the usual suspects such as Nazis, racists, bigots, homophobes, the “n” word and the “c” word (Brits excepted). I’ve made a point of not being offended by much, but here’s a short list:

1. “retarded”. Ick. I’m with Neva and Ann on this one.

2. Yukons, Denalis, Escalades and other humongous SUVs driven by people not hauling around kids or lumber. I know I gave up my environmentalism on this blog about three years ago, but people who drive those fuckers around still make me vomitous.


3. Republicanism. In all its forms. Perhaps not for conservative-leaning folks personally, but the public face and demeanor of Republicans is a horror freakshow.

4. Relentless Photoshopping of women in print ads. Lucy has shown no interest in the pop culture world, nor the tabloid newsstands, and she has to be dragged to the mall. But we will do everything in our power to give her a positive relationship with her own body.

5. Dahntay Jones, Matt Christiansen and Chris Collins. For obvious reasons.


12 thoughts on “in french: felchez

  1. wottop

    Throwing out a leg to get a cheap foul on a three point attempt.
    People who believe and will repeat/forward anything they saw on the internet/in an email like it is true with no other corroboration.
    Bastards who park in the fire lane at the grocery store to either “just run in” or get a movie from the vending machine outside. The rest of us just came to the store for a few things too, but now we have to maneuver around you to get to the actual PARKING LOT.
    People who cannot stop talking on the damn phone long enough to transact business with an actual person.

  2. Alyson

    Men calling women bitches. It just makes my skin crawl.
    Anyone being automatically dismissive of people of faith. Somehow, in the debate over what people should be able to pass judgment on, the argument turned from atheists saying, “I don’t tell you what to believe, so please don’t ask me to believe what you do,” to atheists saying, “If you believe in a supernatural being as part of your faith, you’re clearly an idiot.” What’s even more offensive about it is when those same folks are not as dismissive of religion outside of Christianity. It’s the newly socially acceptable way to be classist in America. It makes me so sick.
    And I hate, hate, hate it when people make fun of what other people eat. If you are at the office and someone is eating something you think is weird, please be quiet about it!

  3. noj

    i get pissed every time i see a female celebrity voluntarily over-sexualizing herself on the cover of a magazine or in an ad. this doesn’t look like it will ever go away so i live with it but always point out to joslyn that these women are making bad decisions and they don’t have to do this.

  4. Dr. Wayne Dyer

    Stop being offended.
    The behavior of others isn’t a reason to be immobilized. That which offends you only weakens you. If you’re looking for occasions to be offended, you’ll find them at every turn. This is your ego at work convincing you that the world shouldn’t be the way it is. By all means, act to eradicate the horrors of the world, which emanate from massive ego identification, but stay in peace. Being offended creates the same destructive energy that offended you in the first place and leads to attack, counterattack, and war.

  5. noj

    Being offended does not have to lead to destructive energy, dr. wayne dyer. it might just be a catalyst do do something about it, but doing something about it starts with being offended. not sure i follow your logic. STAYING perpetually offended is a different matter…

  6. Bud

    With the good Dr.’s comment in mind, here are some horrors I’d like to see eradicated:
    1) Selling lies as truth (ie brainwashing). Recent examples include campaigns to convince us that fracking is safe and beneficial, that high fructose corn syrup (aka corn sugar) is the same as cane sugar, and that Canadian tar sands oil will harmlessly create oodles of American jobs.
    which seques nicely into…
    2) Advertising, especially the infuriatingly ubiquitous ask-your-doctor pharma ads. Just say no, kids. Also egregious are ads which mention constipation, diarrhea (etc) around dinner time.
    I could go on but instead my final and most horrific horror…
    3) The post 9/11 glorification of war, especially awful because of the almost-completely sanitized nature of the coverage. We’re approaching a point where ONLY war is worthy of praise. When they flew flags at half-staff here in NJ after Whitney Houston died, people were outraged. The most common reason: she wasn’t a war hero.
    There are many more horrors out there, but I’ll stop at 3 lest my blood actually boil.

  7. wyatt

    I object to the antagonism directed against red-headed stepchildren and government mules; they have suffered long enough.

  8. CM

    1. Kids cussing.
    2. Internet commenters who need to blame someone after every tragic story. For instance, any story on the ‘net about a kid dying in some sort of accident is followed by 30 posts saying “Why wasn’t the mother watching??”
    3. Internet commenters on stories about fertility treatments who say, “Just adopt.”
    4. Anyone, in fact, who proposes a solution to a complex problem by saying, “Just —-.”
    5. I agree with Alyson’s list.
    6. Snobbishness about the Olive Garden.
    7. Guys complaining about women being fat.
    8. Rye seeds. Blecchhh.

  9. Bob

    Public boorishness. I don’t want to sit behind another car with a bumper sticker that reads, “DON’T LIKE MY DRIVING? CALL 1-800-EAT-SHIT.”
    It’s OK with me if you want to act like an oaf. Just do it on your own time.


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